Nah, I appreciate what you're saying. That's why I started out saying that the "Pendulum War" meme is somewhat valid.
I think the RP/PVP tension, and the specific flavor of it that relates to FW, is an example of the good and bad of how people handle OOC/IC. Part of me thinks that the "Pendulum War" idea was actually a really clever way for us to handle the reality of FW's stagnant game mechanics from an IC perspective. The problem is when its overused as a bludgeon to denigrate people for participating in content they enjoy. OOC I'm as frustrated as anyone that FW mechanics are so stagnant, but Rinai can hardly tell someone ICly "hey, fuckoff, you know as well as I do that CCP has been working on nullsec this whole time."
OOCly, the platonic ideal is that everyone who's RPing wants other RPers to have good RP, even the ones they are "opposed to" IC. It gets messy when people, and I'm guilty of this as well, are naturally mixing the metagame of their competitive internet spaceship PVP / propaganda with their IC actions and statements. EVE's cutthroat nature is always there.
Which brings us back to the whole "doing stuff in space" issue, and what Pieter's talking about with some RPers who don't like to talk about, or who even disparage, PVP content.