Having read a few pages of this, decaffinated, I start with..
"What the fuck ..?"
I think I've been generally good at pointing out flaws and offering constructive criticism with out calling people assholes *and* I get to curse while I do it (yes, my father
was a sailor, thank you very much, and cursing as an adult isn't done to make one cool,
it is done because they are an adult, and they are finally allowed to use cursewords.)
When it comes to discussions and etc, and the important part for me is especially with the influx (regardless of size) of new people...
One should not approach a situation in the YOU ARE BAD AM I AM GOOD! mindset, the I AM RIGHT AND YOU ARE NEW AND THEREFORE WRONG AND IF YOU HAVEN'T READ ALL OF THE CHRONS AND THE 27,000 LINKS OF PLAYER WRITTEN LORE YOU MUST BE SHIT AND NO I DON'T EVEN LINK THEM IN MY ARGUMENTS TO HELP YOU BECAUSE YOU SHOULD KNOW! way.
That example in all caps is how the passive agressive shit starts. Not the person writing in he caps. That person is usuually just making a statement that criticising but not constructive that boils down to "No, because Lore" regardlss of its length. And I'd seen tons of em. I'd *run into them* as responses to my own posting. And I'm almost of the mind that they're not even the capslock poster's
purposeful fault.
The posts smack of the metaphorical intellectual quite accidentally speaking in the assumption that they are
reminding someone of something and just *simply don't realize* the person
never knew it - so in an attempt to treat someone as an equal (allbeit a slightly absent minded one) the pebble rolls down the snowslope, because it ends up looking patronizing/condescending .. take your pick of the multisyllabic term for "being a an uppity know-it all dick" that you like. Fortunately I don't take shit personally enough cept on bad days, and my response would be, "Do you have the links for that for my reference?"
I'm not even going to dig through my old ass posts for examples. Because I'm lazy.
If someone can't read 'internet tone' (and I'll be egotistical here - a lot of people can't, at all, and a lot of being are only passable at it, and I'm pretty good at it) the passive aggressive shit arrives as a
response to capslocked example. Then capslocked person, quite rightly,
sees passive aggression. And then it bounces back and forth getting worse and worse, derailing the purpose of the thread and getting personal, until finally one of us snaps and pretends we're in localchat.
There's going to be frictioning and fractioning no matter what as time goes on cause that's what people with the ability to spread out and make their own tribes do. There is a level of rules that need to be handled - not to make people's feelings feel better - but to make people feel like they're part of an actual human community. A person's ability to fight doesn't make them weaker than someone else, or stronger than someone else, just different than someone else. A person's inability to follow a rule, same applies.
So the main issue I see is that all of the people who have been posting for the past few years have been doing it wr..
*is violently jerked out of view*
(in all seriousness, eve lore etc is a DAUNTING PILE to wade into. When new people post Things, a safer bet would be to instead of pointing out all the shit they've done wrong and getting to flex intellectual muscle BECAUSE YOU KNOW ITS TRUE CAUSE YOU HAVE THE SOURCE LINKS ARR ARR, its usually better to send them the links to all the stuff first that would help them put their story more in line with Lore without saying which parts are wrong first because 9 times out of 10, the person you are talking to is indeed
also intellectualy muscley. THEN if they don't get it, or flatly ask "Eh, can you just tell me the pertinent bits (aka they TRUST YOU) play college professor with people.
Just my personal opinion.
And the three of you? Stop derailing the thread with your passive agressive shit and go kiss.
Edited to add:
http://www.wimp.com/brainstormingwork/ .. watch it. I SAID WATCH IT! You need cristicism AND construction. Only one, or the other, or neither, is useless.