(With "my IC interpretation" above I mean "Elsebeth's interpretation". I only play the one character in EVE, so the shorthand actually works pretty well. Sorry to be unclear.)
I am sorry if you guys feel I was offensive or am doing it wrong, somehow. I don't mind you playing it the way you do - coming up with "The Culture" and posting about it. What you are inventing is good stuff. If I am not discussing the feast or event itself is because I have zero problems with it and think it is cool.
This thread should probably be split into two - comments on this particular event in itself, and one about general discussion about presenting things you invent as the cultural norms most [insert race here] know about / follow.
So, on the
latter, Syylara/Yaansu, I think you miss my point a bit. My point is not that I would want to offer "an alternative" and push
my version as
the culture. I actually rather like what people are doing with the Intaki stuff, and not playing an Intaki character there's very little chance that it will become problematic for my RP even if I didn't.
What I want is a way to share these things that leaves room for
everyone's ideas to co-exist in the same universe without us having to even go to treating them as "alternatives", to decide to "take it or leave it", and to "compete" with ideas.
My point is that
I think things work better when people who invent cultural stuff carefully make theirs to be "a" Sebiestor (or whatever) culture rather than "the" Sebiestor (or whatever) majority culture. Explanation attempt for why I think so follows. If you think it is overanalysis and not your cup of tea, just skip it and continue playing the way you have so far.
In cases where someone presents something as "the Sebiestor way", the problem with thinking "not my cup of tea" is that my character, who is a fairly traditionally-minded Sebiestor, turns away from something that is (presented as) "the traditional thing" for her - so why does she do this? I prefer to not just OOCly ignore it, because
other players will decide to play along, and I will with some likelihood play with them in the future, and this might come up. So I need to decide if ICly, I think the OP is mistaken about the customs and I am actually right, or if I belong to a minority of Sebs that do things differently, etc. Whatever I choose has implications for further RP - even if I am not OOCly interested in the thing itself at all. It leads to RP, which is good. But it leads to RP I did not "opt in" for, but that was chosen for me by another player's vision.
And say the more likely thing happens - say this idea actually
is my cup of thea, say I find the idea fun, but it does not (bummer!) fit into my pre-existing background story about how my Sebiestor character's customs and ways. I might go "Oh, that sounds interesting, even though my people never did such a celebration" or so IC. This, still, forces a background decision on myself and the OP: does he now treat me as part of a minority of Sebs who do not follow this custom? Do I accept that characterization, for myself, and for
everyone else I might meet in the game who cannot fit in that idea? Or do I contest his idea that he represents the majority, and bring in my own majority, and have a publicity contest about whose majority is bestest? And wouldn't both of us actually rather be playing the feast than deciding these things?
On the other hand, if initially, the whole thing was presented as "a Sebiestor way" (yes, just one word of difference!), I could think "not my cup of tea" and simply assume that while some Sebiestor do it, they might be a minority, or from a different region than my character, or whatever. It would also be easier to express interest in the feast even if I do not want to incorporate it into "my" Sebiestor ways. "Oh, that sounds interesting! I never heard of such a custom..." would be neutral, and place
neither me
nor the OP in the minority, but both as equal individuals discussing cultural ideas.
Like I tried to explain above,
1) I do not think this particular wording is an important issue at all, it is just indicative of a wider cultural clash, and
2) I completely believe that is is not the
intent of people who put other people off with phrasings that imply that what you invented is THE way. (If it was their intent, there obviously wouldn't be any problem with this.)
Apologies if my viewpoints were offensive. I did not intend them as such. I was trying to offer my 2 cents about easy things we could all do to play together better - simply try and carefully make room for everyone's inventions.