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[Casiella]

Hopefully you've at least fit the right racial jammers...

...okay I'd better stop now.

[Zuzanna Alondra]

Going to have to make one of those...

I have no idea what to make it?  Details details, I feel like such a dirty girl for needing one.

[Alexander Rykis]

Well for my birthday before Iraq, my former fiancee-turned-total-cheating-whoreslut wore a cop outfit and handcuffed me to the bed...

That's about the extent of my kink


I am, in fact, a complete and total man whore slut though. If you're mildly attractive or I have enough to drink, I'll pretty much let my dick go wherever.

EDIT: I keep saying whore but whore's get paid

[Zuzanna Alondra]

If I had a dollar for every picture I let my boyfriend take I wouldn't need to play the lotto?

Would that count as being a whore?

[Verone]

Is it bad that this is the first thread on these forums that I've read, re-read, back to front and inside out?



Yeah... as free-speaking as you guys are about this stuff, I don't think I'd be quite ready to share so openly .

Maybe I'll check back in a few months and post something when I actually decide what I want from life 

[Alexander Rykis]

If I had a dollar for every picture I let my boyfriend take I wouldn't need to play the lotto?

Would that count as being a whore?

Post pics or it didn't happen

[Mizhara]

*starts rummaging through the images folder*
Oh wait, those were supposed to be private...

And Verone, if you don't feel comfortable speaking in public I am more than willing to lend an ear in-game or something. Any specific thoughts, questions, things you wonder about... you know. Anything, really. The subject is so vast that chances are that it'll raise interest in the reader. It's more common than most people realize, and sadly a lot of people go through life very unfulfilled thinking they're a very rare breed with no one around to relate with.

If you think it might be the case... pop a convo or a mail. Anything from idle curiosity to deep philosophical questions on the nature of human relationships and dominance... well, if I can't answer or just provide the open ear, I can probably point you to places which might help.

[Lillith Blackheart]

It's more common than most people realize, and sadly a lot of people go through life very unfulfilled thinking they're a very rare breed with no one around to relate with.

There is an alternative option, not that one is unfulfilled or thinks they're some kind of unique snowflake, but they consider it to be private, and therefore have difficulty talking about it, not due to any sort of concern or shame.

As a mention. This hereby is my sole comment on the whole thread, everything else will fall under "No comment."

[Kaleigh Doyle]

If I had a dollar for every picture I let my boyfriend take I wouldn't need to play the lotto?

Would that count as being a whore?

Attention whore, perhaps. 

[Zuzanna Alondra]

*starts rummaging through the images folder*
Oh wait, those were supposed to be private...

There's rules on the forums about pictures anyway.

[Mebrithiel]

Is it bad that this is the first thread on these forums that I've read, re-read, back to front and inside out?

Yes, yes it is.






And yes, so did I.
 

[Alexander Rykis]

Is it bad that this is the first thread on these forums that I've read, re-read, back to front and inside out?

Yes, yes it is.






And yes, so did I.
 

I have a copy of Meb's Kink for Dummies in my ship somewhere...

[Zuzanna Alondra]

Is it bad that this is the first thread on these forums that I've read, re-read, back to front and inside out?

Yes, yes it is.
And yes, so did I.

I have a copy of Meb's Kink for Dummies in my ship somewhere...

I've read it back and forth several times over, had many a conversation in private chats asking tons of questions (*hugs Havo, Miz and Koro*) and tried my best to contribute - as literally, rereading this thread ending up making a huge change to my bedroom life and mildly on my outcome on life in general.

The first thought I wanted to share is the term that has come out of this - "F**K supposed to."

Supposed to says all things things you think you have to do to be a good little housewife - this according to the sex advice from my mother in my teens included being very submissive in bed and being grateful if care was taken to even make sure you liked it.  This also included sucking it up if you didn't and I learned a long ago to fake orgasims because "your supposed to pretend to like it."  This also included feeling dirty and unfaithful for masturbating or looking at images, even if they were looking at you with them and feeling whorish for even daring to ask for favors that from my best understanding are very common place things to do for your "girl." (disclaimer:  my examples assume male-female because that's what I know, not out of dislike for m-m or f-f).

Throw these expectations onto a woman that has been badly sexually abused and it because an ugly circle of nightmares and mentally keeping the abuse going - unknown to my partner sadly for years.

But then have the thought that it's ok to *want* things for yourself - both inside and outside of the bedroom and it's ok in the bedroom to demand and expect to enjoy it and have the complete control I've needed to feel completely safe and the nightmares start to calm and for once in my life I find myself finding a much more affordable and enjoyable form of counseling for sexual abuse then paying some shrink 75 an hour to tell me I'm messed up. (incase previous posts haven't made it clear - I found being able to be dominate more often then not and having the control to say stop and actually being heard to be a wonderful treat)

Now my next thought and the point that got me to post after so long of keeping quiet myself is, "Meb's Kink for Dummies"?  While I'm guessing it's a joke - does such a book really exist?

Which leads to a more interesting question; so far my current partner lives long distance and since there is only so much that can be done over the internet (which is likely more then you think...) we haven't had to create a safe word yet, nor have I really had any ideas that he hasn't pretty much adored yet.  How do you go about picking a word that isn't too common but would be perfectly understood if used?  I personally could never see bringing harm to someone in the bedroom, even accidentally, and want to make sure I never do.

Because trust me - someone disrespecting a "no" in the bedroom can be a life devastating event for both parties.  So I am wanting to learn as much as I can to make sure I never *ever* do to someone else what has happened to me.

[Mizhara]

There are multiple criteria for a safeword, and they vary from person to person due to personal interests, personalities and so on.

1.) Somewhat unique. "Oh God" is not a good safeword in a sexual setting, as it's a fairly common utterance. The same goes for names and so on and so forth. However, names can be used. The name of a brother. The name of a dog. Something you'd never say during sex/play anyway.
2.) Must be memorable. Acetylsalisylic acid or however the hell it's spelled is not easy to recall during the deepest throes of passion or subspace. Foreign words can be hard to remember. Use something familiar that comes easily to mind, but following rule one does not get uttered during sex/play.

There's more for 'good' safewords, but these two must be covered by a safeword.

I am personally also fond of the Red, Yellow, Green progression, as it provides something besides full stop.

"Red!" : Stop! Stop stop stop, I can't take it. Full stop!
"Yellow!" : It's too much, give me a minute, I need to recover, but I'm willing to continue soon.
"Green!" : Go to town on me, baby. Get medieval!

However, colors can come up in play conversation, and thus it's not applicable to all play or all people who need safewords.

[Saede Riordan]

Which leads to a more interesting question; so far my current partner lives long distance and since there is only so much that can be done over the internet (which is likely more then you think...) we haven't had to create a safe word yet, nor have I really had any ideas that he hasn't pretty much adored yet.  How do you go about picking a word that isn't too common but would be perfectly understood if used?  I personally could never see bringing harm to someone in the bedroom, even accidentally, and want to make sure I never do.

Because trust me - someone disrespecting a "no" in the bedroom can be a life devastating event for both parties.  So I am wanting to learn as much as I can to make sure I never *ever* do to someone else what has happened to me.

Damnit Miz you beat me to this, anyway, posting it anyway since its already typed out

picking a safe word is pretty easy, there is just a few pieces of criterion it needs:
1. Be easily remembered by both parties
2. Able to be easily mumbled, this becomes especially important when using gags
3. Something that's not going to be said by accident

I actually have two safewords, the first one is the slow down, I'm not liking the direction this is going safe word, and that one is blackbird. The second one is the No, stop it, all stop right now, and that is Falcon. Simple, easy to remember, not accidentally going to say it.

Now, something important needs to be realized, both parties need to completely understand what the safewords mean. I know a lot of subs don't like to use them because their afraid they'll disappoint their Dom, this is a stupid, if understandable position to be in, I know because I was in it for a while. A safeword is not there to hurt feelings, its there for the safety of both people and there is nothing to be ashamed about when using it.
Also, the sub isn't the only one who should have a safeword, the Dom should have one too.

I'm new to this, and I'm fairly bad at explaining but I think that makes for a good readers digest version, and Meb and Miz, feel free to correct me.