When it comes to interbussing around, I play it by ear. Generally speaking I'd rather have all my ducks in a row than not - if I have the time and want Aedre to be present physically, that's what I do. If I can't because FW is being crazy and it's unrealistic he'd leave, holo is the alternative. Most places have pretty decent equipment, I've noticed.
If I just don't have time to fly out and back purely for OOC reasons, since I only get on for a few hours a day not even most days, then I'm not about to pass up a chance to RP just because I can't afford the derping around time. It needs to make some sense in a narrative way, but I won't hold myself to things too strictly just because it doesn't make sense sometimes from an RL perspective; it's almost equally forced. Aedre hits up the Lounge quite a bit, and he almost always does so in person. It's important to him, for Reasons.
It's not a ton of jumps, but it's a hell of a lot to drop a fleet, fly out, RP until bedtime and then fly back? In the meantime, the dude has plenty of his own life's time to do just that, which he'd do diligently, because that's what he wants to do, and he has time while I'm working to 'do' that.
But when I have the time I do visit, because physically visiting is just a nice gesture. Can't argue with that. Things just aren't ideal on my end sometimes, and I'd rather get the RP in. "YDIW" seems a little harsh to dole out blanket-wise, but I can see how if interbussing is abused, that can really take away from things. But that's like everything I guess. Abuse of things is bad. Striking things as 'always wrong' puts artificial caps on stuff, too, I think.