My little 2 cents, so take this how you will.
"Patriotism" has always been a prickly idea no matter how you look at it. Always has been because it remains an ideology, and each person have their definition of what it means to be a patriot or a nationalist - whether its IRL or in EVE.
To some being a patriot means going out on the streets and protesting for educational reform and defense budget cuts, because the future of the country lies in the students, and not the army.
To others, being a patriot means grumbling and writing blogs about increasing defense spending because the safety and security of the country is paramount to the prestige and the future of the nation.
And to others, being a patriot means helping people that are in need of help, because a strong society means that the nation as a whole will be strong through cohesion.
It all depends on perspective, and how receptive people are to opinions and on definitions on "what it means to be a patriot". Its like how I serve in the French army, and I'll have people say to me "thank you for your service". I personally don't see how I could be of service to them, but I suppose they see me as a patriot, when oddly enough, I share more with north american and japanese culture than I do with French culture, yet I think what I do is important... but not necessarily out of patriotism.
Fighting for what you believe in, putting actions where your words are, will always be "more important" or more of "value" than empty words, certainly. But the use of force whether lawful or unlawful doesnt necessarily make that more worthwhile than someone that utilizes his strength (economic, or social assistance) to help the greater community. Assuming in the first place that serving the community is patriotism.
Personally, I find that tying patriotism to the use of force/military service is very narrow-minded, and far too simply for an idea that is interpreted differently to each person.
Rather, the question should be, "is what I am doing advancing my interpretation of patriotism?"