With respect, here's what I see:
Ashar presents the fact that some EVE players (including writers, roleplayers, and others with an interest in the general subject matter addressed on Backstage) don't come here, largely because of their perceptions of what the moderation and atmosphere include.
Some of the other members, including "core regulars" and staff, point out that we come here because of our perceptions of those things.
I don't doubt for a moment that Ashar tells the truth, and that some folks feel that way. I suspect that, rather than changing the underlying reality in any way, we might need to do a better job of explaining some things (cf. the discussion on writing critiques) and highlighting that "offensively inoffensive" may not apply to sites that allow open discussion of D/s, RL politics, and the like.
I understand that I have personality clashes with some users. I try not to let it affect any decisions I might make, and in fact the atmosphere this site promotes almost certainly keeps any resultant conflict to a bare minimum.
Which is a "win" for everyone involved.