The majority of my RP is my failures. I never connect to the summit to throw my solo kills or what my fleet I lead did. Always fuck, I died to a gatecamp. I was too drunk to turn on my reps. Etc...
Personally I thrive on adversity, non-public failure doesn't teach me like making it public. Plus I love to RP Aya as impulsive and angry. Remind people there is a Kameira under the trained politeness.
I agree with OP, embrace failure. It shows more about your character how you act in defeat, failure, loss, and adversity. Get back up or lay there and take it.
I can +1 this, having been privy to her posting in the Bringing Solo Back channel. No, it's not IGS, but I think it's a lil more entertaining than the serious "pontifications" and oratorial ejaculations that seem to plague IGS (yes, I understand that :PvPWithWords: is just as supersrsbizness as :l337SpaceshipPvP:, but it's not really my cup of tea).
On the subject of failure, I fail all the time. Look at me on BC. I fail, I re-ship, and I try a different approach, "get right back on the horse", so to speak. I disagree with the assertion that the only two true approaches to failure are "sour grapes" or "quiet/histrionic acceptance, followed by quitting". In truth,
neither approach is very helpful if your goal is to actually learn from the failure and improve.
How much would you learn if after every loss or failure, you go "Meh, didn't really want that ship anyway," or "I'm great, just (insert random excuse here), I'll get em next time!"?? Obviously you'd learn nothing at all if you emotionally internalize the failure, go "I quit, never doing that again," and storm off -- well, you'd learn Quitting V pretty goddamned fast. That's about it, though.
It takes a degree of emotional and mental maturity to accept the loss/failure, see what you did wrong (and
actually see what you did wrong, not just heap a load of blame on yourself), and figure out a way to correct it for future endeavors.
That's why you see so many shitty people on the RL planet nowadays: an excess of self-esteem coupled with the "sour grapes" or "do it perfectly the first time, or not at all" mentality as a self-preservation mechanism for that vain image of what they think they are, vice what they actually are.
Want to know why in-game RP doesn't work in EVE? Someone already hit that nail on the head: you can't just say "Look at me, I'm an awesome space pilot," because then you have to back it up with
actions. If you can't, then yes, you do end up looking like a fool, and rightfully so.
If you're a 5'5" waif of a guy with no martial arts training and walk into a biker bar, pick out the biggest, meanest-looking dude in the bunch, and go "Hey bubba, Im'ma kick your ass," ... well,
after everyone finishes laughing at you, Bubba is probably gonna kick
your ass and toss you out face-first on the sidewalk. Call me an elitist dick, but that sounds about right to me.