There you go then. Whole thing's officially a clusterfuck that's subject to whatever convention happens to be popular at the moment.
In that case how about this: if we're sticking with the "-i = female" convention, then how about adding an "-e = male" convention? Pronounced like the "ay" in "array".
sibling/sister/brother: an/ani/ane
parent/mother/father: asen/aseni/asene
spouse/wife/husband: arun/aruni/arune
Citizen/female citizen/male citizen: haan/haani/haane.
Friend/female friend (informal)/male friend (informal): suuolo/suuli/suule
Apply to the end of a noun that might realistically have a male or female context. For instance, if you want to inquire "are you doing well?", then "ukaki moittet?" is the correct form when addressing a woman, and "ukake moittet?" when addressing a man. you could also use "ukak moittet" if the other's gender is unknown, but this would be considered rude or insulting.
This could of course lead to unsubtle jokes about Intaki men being effeminate.
It would also give the word "Caldari" a female twist to it, evoking the whole "mother earth"/"mother nature" thing.
I'm just spinning off ideas at 2:30am here, they may not all make sense.