[..]I chose to use the circle jerk term this precise, particular time instead of echo-chamber, which is a lot less derogatory. Usually, I use the latter, but it seems usually not to make my point across. Actually, I have noticed that on the internet, everything tends to be magnified to an extreme degree and prejudice where only very strong and offensive words have a real impact. Thus, most of the rest, especially polite wordings when trying to make a point, lose their meaning quite rapidly and become bland, which is a shame.
I actually feel that offensive words are pretty bad at stimulating responses from my side, I roll my eyes mentally when I see them, usually. When I see polarized comments and offensive words, I actually sometimes consider the opinion of the person not as much as I would have if it was written in a more civilized way (I guess this is not entirely objective of me, heheh), to the point of merely glossing over the post or outright ignoring it.
Exactly, thus why I was maybe wrong - or not, who knows. I am pretty certain not to use a lot of derogatory wordings in most of my posts for that precise reason.
At times though, it just feels like battling against a wall.
So, what about things like "prepare your anus"? And using "rape" in a joking sense? If you're going to go all the way, go all the way.
In fact the mod team has discussed both the 'prepare your anus' meme and the use of 'rape' in other contexts than sexual assault (ie. 'I totally raped that Falcon').
In re: the first, the ultimate decision was that anal sex is not, ipso facto, non-consensual, and (outside the limits in the rules, specifically rule six) we do not consider references to sexual activity grounds for catacombing without other factors.
With nothing but love and respect for the mod team in my heart, I must say that this line of defense is completely insane. Did someone really argue that it could and should be read as something like "PREPARE YOUR ANUS on the off chance you want to, uh, experiment a bit with the fine gentlemen over here, no pressure?"
The problem isn't that it references a sex act, the problem is that it tells you to prepare for one in the imperative mood.
That.
It's precisely the crux of the matter brought up by Schere here - and again, I completely agree with the OP. Maybe the mod team took it as a reference to a consensual act, but I never did, and always took it as a blatantly obvious reference to anal rape, in a similar vein of how the rape word is used so commonly in Eve.
Was it the intended meaning ? Maybe not, but it was ambiguous enough that I understood it that way, and I am pretty sure that reading Lasa's comment about it, I was not the only one. And as I said, it's the crux of the matter. The words, terms, or connotations you use can carry a whole difference message for different people.
Also, even in the consensual aspect of the anal act in itself, if that is the real meaning of the pic (
), it refers to sexually explicit things. I am not sure, but is that tolerated on this forum ? While we are at explicit depictions, I personally loathe anal penetration by personal sexual taste in any kind of way, male or female, and find that utterly disgusting, the same way that heterosexuals might find homosexuality disgusting, or homosexuals might find heterosexuality disgusting, or the same way a lot of people will find some kinds of BDSM or even hentai disgusting.
I find the image explicit enough to bring a lot of unwanted mental images every time I see it. It's tiring.