People coming. People going. People upset about the comings and goings and the reasons behind them. It's all very dramatic, and it all seems to stem from the notion of the community. A single, monolithic RP community. It's a gated community, and if the gatekeepers don't like you, you aren't allowed in. If you slip by and the other residents don't like you, you're thrown out or, at the very least, made to feel unwelcome until you leave.
I'd encourage everyone to pause a moment and consider their own ideal community. Does it exist in EVE? Why not build it yourself? Rather than try to be a member of the community, why not seek out or create a community that is more to your liking? Your community, perhaps.
Find the folks you like and invite them to play in your community. No, it probably won't be as densely populated as the community, and perhaps some of the gatekeepers and overlords of the community will do whatever they can to discourage others from giving your community a fair shake, but that's the nature of competition in a free market of ideas (or of RP communities). Hell, you can be a member of as many communities as you like. Pick and choose the ones that suit you best and integrate yourself into them to whatever degree makes you comfortable.
If you really believe that the veteran elitists who form the central committee of the community are so terrible, then why keep trying to fit into their domain? Build your own castle next door. Declare war or be a peaceful neighbor. However you choose to do it, you owe it to yourself to carve out an environment that's conducive to your enjoyment, whether that's with an established community or a new one that you create. (Personally, I don't make any effort to hide the fact that I can't stand the self-appointed gatekeepers of the community, and I know most of 'em don't like me much, either. I don't play with them. Problem solved.)
Anyhow, my point is that we're all ultimately responsible for our own fun in EVE. Don't like the available choices? Create new ones. There's a far wider range of options than a single RP community.