I assure you, the Amarrian-hating does not extend into OOC (well, except in that I, personally, have a hatred of religious zealots, but I don't know a single Amarrian roleplayer who is actually a religious zealot in real life). In fact, I have often said that I consider Rodj Blake to be the best roleplayer in EVE Online because he plays someone so immensely different to what he's like in real life. In the game he's a dogmatic, close-minded, bigoted, arrogant, supercilious, insane, morally bankrupt zealot, but in real life he's a friendly, talkative, open-minded, wonderful chap who I absolutely love talking to and sharing drinks with.
Basically the same with Grr and most of CVA's membership - IC I depise them, OOC they're excellent fellows.
That's not to say I think people like Evanda Char, Verone, Vincent Pryce, etc. aren't also good roleplayers, but I've noticed that a lot of people play characters who resemble them in some way (for example, Evanda Char's player is, in real life, almost exactly like I'd imagine her in game), if perhaps not quite as closely as my own character does, but Rodj Blake and his player have always struck me by how entirely different they are.
The EVE meets are good because I generally tend to have a lot more respect for and understanding of characters when I've met the people who play them, because I can see how their characters are like them (or, alternatively, how they aren't like them).