It's very early in the morning, so forgive me if this is a bit disjointed:
I try to be polite and post in a restrained way. I know that that can come off as passive-aggressive - and I suppose in the sense that I am certainly sometimes frustrated or annoyed or angry and try to remove that from my reaction or posts, perhaps it is. Certainly I am sometimes passive when I wish I could be aggressive. More emotive posting, while satisfying (see my final post on Chatsubo, for example) are for me the opposite of useful for moderation. I take the role of moderator here seriously, and I think I would be doing the job a disservice if I didn't try to keep an impartial view and maintain as much objectivity as possible. I'm interested in maintaining this forum as a place people can talk about Eve things - and that is more important to me than getting caught up in whatever my personal feelings are on some subject, poster, etc. I'm sorry that your opinion of me is so negative. While your lack of consideration for the rules here has been a problem for me as a mod here, I always liked and respected you as a fellow player. I've enjoyed those occasions we interacted in-game.
I don't think moderation here has been perfect, and I doubt it ever will be perfect. I think that the mod team has done they best that they can, as honestly as they can, which in a community as old and interconnected as Eve RP can be a challenge. I'm sure we sometimes go too far, or not far enough. Sometimes we let discussion get in the way of taking action, or take action too hastily. No doubt we will again in the future. It's the nature of the thing. I can only hope that we continue to do our best.
I think threads like this, now and then, help us calibrate things a bit. Certainly I think this section has been simultaneously one of the biggest pains and one of the most valuable parts of the board from a moderation standpoint. Both the good and bad feedback tells us something about how we are doing our job.
One recurring theme we see when people are upset about moderation is the idea that it doesn't matter how you say a thing, so long as the core information is the same. That's not really the case, words have power (particularly in a medium where they are the sole avenue of expression) and people use specific words to say the 'same' thing for a reason. I'm not talking about using profanity here, either. While it has a lot of potential to cause problems, it isn't a problem in and of itself.
Last thing, I would encourage everyone to read the Mission Statement, Rules, and FAQ. I've put that in moderation posts often enough, but seriously. If you haven't, or haven't lately. It's something that I frequently refer to when deciding on how to moderate. I think it can tell you more about the idea of what Backstage is than most anything else.