Listen, Miz:
Again, the major point here not about you. It is about what kind of an image a "community" that tolerates that kind of shit, over and over and over again, gives of itself to newbies who are considering joining it, and old-timers who are considering staying.
However, since you like to talk about yourself, let's do it.
There's a solution that requires neither tighter moderation nor you turning people away by being negative and aggressive. It is you choosing to hear the people you want to play with when they tell you your way of expressing yourself is not constructive and makes them not want to engage with you, and changing it, because you want to be friends, or seen as a fair person.
I get it that you feel you are not doing anything wrong and that it is "just your way" of doing things. Unfortunately when we work with people, how we feel they should feel about how we act is often less important than how they actually feel. In talking to people, you cannot just talk in a way that you feel is culturally appropriate and means a certain thing and look at your own intentions. You have to talk in ways that those hearing you hear in a way you intend. It's not any sort of fair that we have to do this, and tbqfh I would rather not myself, but "people should hear what I say, not how I say it" has not started to work in the whole human history, and it will not start working now.
And before you say it, no, this is not about some "delicate flowers" getting their "poor feelings hurt". I am sure there is some of that, but most of this is about people quite on the level of yours and beyond when it comes to skill, boldness, organizational ability and foul mouths (when they are in the appropriate context) just being fed up with you acting like a jerk while claiming to just want to play the game with them. No one likes a jerk. Mostly not even other jerks.
I could provide you a list of all the times you've been unreasonable and aggressive since I became active again. I won't. People don't owe you statistics about how often you have been a jack-ass compared to how often you have not. They feel you are doing it too much, and they are not engaging in RP or gameplay or OOC talks with you because of it. The defense that "but the toxic shit only constitutes every tenth post I've made!" is... very odd, to most people. It is not a scale where you get to attack someone once in a while if you refrain from it 9 times out of 10 when you interact with people.