Hmm.
I think I see how this goes.
If your character is nice to everyone, then they are a lickspittle who can't be bothered to stand up for anything, but if they reject some people, then your character is an asshole.
If you run around losing ships in PvP, then you are a violent warmonger who is also incompetent. If you don't, you are a puling coward.
If your faction argues within itself, then you are eating your own, but if you express unity, your faction has no depth.
And so on. People are always going to be attacking you, unless you don't matter. Do your own thing. Forget about everyone else. No one else matters - you are paying your own subscription fee or for your own PLEX.
One of my most enjoyable moments in Eve was getting ganked by someone, reshipping, stalking them, and then killing their (more expensive) ship. Other enjoyable moments included such things as assassinating RPers, can-flipping, suicide pods in high-sec for the lulz, and trying to make someone upset on the IGS. Certainly, many people didn't like that, and many, many have let me know, much to my delight. On the other hand, I'm still enjoying Eve.
What's even more fun is that the people who just trade, mission, or mine are hated too. There's always someone who hates you and everything you are. So what? I've always found ignoring someone or going on the offense to be fairly effective. You may even learn to experience a good deal of glee when some loud-mouthed unfortunate finds himself inconvenienced by a scam, gank, or war-dec you inflict.