See that's the thing people need to get into their heads; being not just feminist but anywhere at all inclined to vague equality doesn't mean you have to be some bra-burning-vegan-hippy-killjoy.
Instead of footstamping and whining in some intellectual daily, most people just say, "You know what'd be cool? More good female characters."
Which is why i still can't ascribe any motive other than selfish childishness to the gamers tying their panties in a twist over the review or people who share the sentiment.
Is this specific to GTA or in general? (I wondered if it was GTA specific due to your first bit and "the review")
Regarding GTA my stance is - it's an adult game, it's meant to represent criminals, thuggery, mobsters etc and the world they inhabit and is not supposed to be a role model to anyone. It's riffing off a genre that has its own expectations. Which is not to say someone can't find problems with it, just that I don't. (or haven't with the previous titles anyways, haven't got the new one)
I think a lot of people are annoyed that, even when you get the mechanic to select a protagonist, none of them are female. Kind of like a lot of people seemed miffed that the next incarnation of the Doctor in Doctor Who won't be female. I'm not really fussed by either for a few reasons... which I won't go into as will take another mammoth post.
But in general, I think it's totally fine to muse quietly "You know what'd be cool? More good female characters" (tho obviously 'good' is subjective; to some that might be in aesthetics, attitude, to others that means credible) but another aspect to all this is, while it's more inclusive to stick a load of playable female protagonists into games, it's more treating the symptom of the problem. It's also fine to question how female characters are already represented and why. Or why there may be a comparative lack of 'good' female characters in the first place.
It doesn't hurt anyone to ask those questions. It certainly doesn't hurt gaming.
I think there's a lot of knee-jerk sentiments going around from all sides - some of that does seem to be being a 'killjoy' I won't entirely disagree. I think sometimes things can get obscured as questioning things seems to get confused with censoring them (oddly), and a lot of criticism re: female characters can come across as puritanical and/or overly PC. That said, there's a vast amount of sexist douchebaggery, immaturity and entitlement going on as well so....yeah.
The 'selfishness' from all sides is likely to come from the fact that gamers all love their hobby; and some find it extremely wearying that their hobby has became politicised and caught up in endless debates, and others find it extremely wearying that they're being consistently marginalised within the hobby they enjoy. Everyone's selfish, everyone's tired but I wonder if everyone can agree that gaming as a medium needs to grow up a bit and we can all benefit from more quality innovative games? Maybe simplistic but that seems like 'the solution' to me.