I understand that Russian military confirmed not to have fired any ABMs. Which is probably a good thing, since their ABMs are nuclear-tipped the last I've heard. (The logic is that it's better to take out a big nuke with a small nuke than let it hit Moscow. Also solves the problem with accuracy.) It is assumed that Russian ABMs are placed around Moscow, so Chelyabinsk region might even be out of range.
Also, re-entry velocity of ICBMs is on the lines of 5 km/s, unless I am wrong. This thing was an order of magnitude faster by the reports.
On detecting: The Russians have stated that the meteor used the old air combat trick of approaching from the Sun, so it was practically impossible to notice such a small object before it was late.
On an off-topic note, Mr. Berlusconi probably had a bad week in Italy. He needs all the attention he can have to get elected again. Who'd guess that the Pope would resign, lil' Kim from Best Korea plays with nukes and then we have a well-photographed meteor, all within a week?