In my and ANSHs general experience, going after FW plexers is becoming less and less worth your time, anyway. They will not give you fights; when you do manage to catch them, an increasingly large majority are no-gun speed-tanking frigates barely worth the ammo to pop them.
Oh but how they pop.
I've caught maybe two or three in as many months (and really only on the warp-in beacon), but its still satisfying to blast them. And even if I knew that any of them belonged to a friend who flies with me in the CalMil, I'd still try and shoot his/her farming alt. I'd expect the same done to me if I had such an alt.
No, really - there isn't a good IC answer to this.
Oh yes there is...
Kill it.
Kill it with fire.
Because that is what your character would do if they saw an enemy ship near a friendly complex.
Is there any point for entities below a certain size attempting to play FW in an immersive RP fashion ?
Large entities like Ushra'Khan or Electus Matari are big enough for anyone to get a fleet to do things in, but small entities of say ~20 characters max, what are they to do ? When the only small gang targets (i.e. enemy plexers) are often alts of their own militia ?
Fact of the matter is there are plenty of solo and small gang targets out there that aren't FW farming alts. QCATS always shoot. Villore Accords always shoot. I usually kill or am killed by at least one such target every time I roam. There are also nasty pirates in the FW warzones that are also nice to shoot at--like Anshar.
In 2 1/2 months in CalMil, I've achieved about 40 honest force-on-force ship kills that were either scored solo or in small gangs of 5 ships or less. PVP jitters every time. Perfectly IC actions every time.
There are no good IC ways to deal with FW.
Takes some SoDB from time to time, but the same thing can be said for any metagame concept or half-executed storyline and how it relates to RP. There's no good IC way to deal with the fact that the Yulai and Malkalen stations are still in ruins, for example. No good IC way to deal with the perpetual Sansha invasions, to mention another. There's no good IC way to deal with the fact that agents send tens of thousands of capsuleers on missions to kill huge enemy fleets in hisec space every day, to drive the point home.
Doesn't change the fact that I:
- participate in FW
- read and enjoy the lore
- still want to try my hand at some incursions
- run missions for ISK and LP
- sometimes have to do things that require me to take off my IC hat and put on my MMO hat
- and still have enjoyable and substantive RP every time my character walks into a scene
Don't get so worked up about it. What your character knows is far less than what you know as a player. Every time we log in, we have to sacrifice some immersion for the fact that we are, after all, playing a video game. EVE is not just a fictional setting where we do improv. EVE is an MMO, part of which is a fictional setting.
Just take a breath and...