Ok, well, I would like to state that the example of God is x (or P) popped into my head - not necessarily because I believed it (I haven't done any research on it at all) but because I certainly see the concept as patriarchal, traditionally (as power disseminated from God to Pope to King to Father - i.e the loving Father oversees his household/family in the same way God does but on a microcosm, shepherd tends his sheep etc) and patriarchy tends to be used as a term with misogyny, but misogyny being women hating would be far the more contentious and therefore (presumably) more likely to be considered defamation as an example of God is P.
Didn't necessarily want to start a shit storm from that
(Particularly given that could end up in the "feminazis always talk about patriarchy to blame men!" place, where these conversations tend to go eventually)
That said >.>
I kind of want to interact with these bits
(thread split?)
Re: tradition not arising out of misogyny, but a historical understanding of the roles of man and women and a division of tasks between the two:
There's a documentary been on a couple of times called She-Wolves by Helen Castor that is made-of-the-awesome, about medieval Queens and their characterisation as She-Wolves. One of the historical understandings is that a woman can be a Queen as in, wife of a King, but not Queen as in, female King. Because part of being a King is conquering, and women can't lead armies. So that's a division of tasks between the two there - man martial, women not.
Doesn't necessarily mean she's hated, just that it's acknowledged those are separate spheres.
She can get away with it if she borrows power (acting on behalf of her husband when he's away or sick with his authorization, acting on behalf of a son before he's of an age to rule) but not in her own right. Inevitably, there were some women who wanted to go beyond that allotted power and, ultimately, be Kings - rulers in their own right. The telling thing is the reactions to that idea, which have varied both in time period and context, but largely, it was pretty hostile. It was seen as unnatural and wrong for a woman to have power - as power meant masculinity.
I'd wonder if it was only an understanding of the division, why the reactions were so hostile when that division was blurred - why people felt so threatened and the woman in question was condemned. Seems to me like as long as she was performing the correct role in that division, she wasn't hated. But the minute she didn't, she was.
Not just Queens, either - if you wanted to look at the idea of women writers in later history, the concept of a woman actually having something to say and expressing her own voice was seen as the height of arrogance - unattractive and unfeminine. (Despite a pen being somewhat easier to lift than a sword). In order to do so, and earn an income from it, it needed to be liberally splattered with self-deprecating caveats. ("I know I'm only a woman, but..." etc).
The point being, "I only like you when you're powerless or doing what I want" seems fairly misogynistic to me
I suppose what I'm trying to argue here, is perhaps the historical/traditional roles are at root misogynous as they deny power and agency.
(Hard to say if they were intended to do that, or it's just how things played out, mind).
Very few people argued that hate and/or dislike of women is justified
Depends how you frame hate/dislike, though. If you like women to be in their place, you don't necessarily hate them (as long as they are in their place). You just want to control them. Which seems to me like a kind of hate/fear combo.
Plus there's internalized/normalized hatred - you don't see yourself as hating women, wouldn't argue that that's what you were doing, just normal and natural that they should be subordinated. (i.e, you still kinda are).
So you could argue the arguments based around denying wimminz the vote were not based on hate/dislike, but because they genuinely weren't believed to be rational enough to make those kinds of important decisions (because hormones and fainting). Or because they should just vote as their husbands anyway (much in the same way as labourers would be coerced into voting the way their landowner did, so their vote could be considered pointless).
The belief that someone is incapable and shouldn't or couldn't have separate agency does betray a level of contempt. Though whether it comes from well-meaning paternalism or fear of primacy being threatened... debatable. (maybe both).