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Title: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Lyn Farel on 01 May 2015, 11:50
Forgive me for chiming in...

Anslo, I am not very sure of who you are talking about with the bittervetting old guard, so bear in mind that I am only trying to speak for myself here... I honestly understand how tiring it can be to spend one's time reading negativity after negativity, and it just turns out toxic at some point. Yes, I really get that, and sometimes I also get why it annoys people to read so much negative criticism when on those forums. I mean, i'm a bit of a bittervet myself on things, and I also got that feeling at times.

I think bare a few, we actually all do it to some extent. Complaining about the lore, events, or other things.

I also think that we should be able to express ourselves and what we think, no ? I mean, I am very happy if someone tells me that it is seriously starting to border on the joy killing raining parade, especially when people or myself repeat something again and again, all rambling, and that especially, can be tiring (something you might be guilty of Silas imo, and sometimes I used to be guilty of too when I was out of the game and spoke about game mechanisms and such).

So, please don't take it personally here, but I seem to notice the opposite movement, where anybody can literally get stoned every time he/she expresses an opinion that doesn't necessarily go in the same direction than the majority, or as seen more recently, just get flak for questions where people want to assume whatever they want, is also bordering on censorship... I mean, I feel that I have been seriously wronged in the last catacombed thread because I simply got a Scud from nowhere for asking what slack is. That's a bit insane, no ?

Again, i'm not accusing anyone of being a bad person that should feel bad (really), but sometimes reading some comments on how people are bringing up criticism (thus, feedback really) for that they are jealous not to get the spotlight... Well, as I said I can't speak for everyone, I mean, I am pretty sure we can find RPers like that, but to those that really want to have those RP events and piece of news and have been asking for them to get back for years now, when pointing out what we think could be better, or what we think is not of our taste, or not very good or appreciated, or just asking simple questions, and then being on the receiving end of a salvo of "you're just jealous stop acting like a child", is well... very depressing.

So yes, personally I do not want to live in an atmosphere so bitter that it just becomes toxic, meaning that every time something new gets out everyone starts to say "that just sucks, it's stupid and CCP should feel bad for it" instead of actually trying to balance out a bit their opinion and prove to be a bit more objective and less making a hissy fit on how they are not happy... But I would also like not to have to live in an atmosphere where only content creators and cool kids get to speak their minds, where saying anything close (or not even close) to constructive but negative criticism (so, negative feedback) is frown upon, for the simple reason that I just do not have the time to devote to be that content creator, and also lack the social skills to forge myself as a cool kid or whatever...

I honestly can get the frustration on both sides... But could we agree for once to stop posting under emotive overload, for all of us, get back and take a breath, think twice about it ? I mean, it has become really deleterious as of late (past 1-2 years), between people just hating the guts of each other...

Sidenote : on the topic of the OOC/Summit issue that split up in two, I can really understand why it became a problem... I mean, I'm not going to criticize anyone because nobody was really at fault, but some people just didn't have proper access to devs, and I can understand why it was an issue. What I don't understand actually, is why after splitting up their own channels and comms, said devs just stopped playing their NPC actors... But I think that we should not mix up the reason why it was split up, and why the dev actors stopped interacting with us.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Vizage on 01 May 2015, 14:33
I think you hit the point-of-fact Lyn when you touched on the not-so-close to constructive criticism. Because frankly finding the constructive complaint is slim-pickings here. That, I think is the crux of people's annoyances here.

A whole lot of complaining gets done and not a whole lot of actual digestible suggestions of what could be done instead.

Worse still some people ham-hock what they "wished"  would happen instead when these evidently best-case for a slim interest group and have a myriad of their own problems that when questioned are treated as personal attacks on the poster.

Cynicism is one thing, but the negativity here borderlines on Nihilism. There's just far to little substance to go with our rapid-fire shooting down of upcoming content.

For me personally, any Rp is good Rp. If you don't like something don't take part in it. I'm personally not too interested in the current "Drifter shadow"  looming on the horizon, but maybe when things kick off more I will.

That said I just consider it poor manners to criticize something I'm not even willing to invest my time in (quite frankly I don't consider myself qualified.) In Silas' case this is doubly frustrating because for people actually enjoying themselves with the current arc it's incredibly frustrating/annoying to be taking pot shots from the peanut gallery.

Silas' I mean that with no offence of course, from what I've seen of you here you've always proported yourself politely. But politeness is one thing and tact is another. Perhaps waiting till the arc is over or at least well matured before laying into it would relax much of the frustration people feel.

On the subject of toxicity on the forums, there will always be a degree of that. Difference of opinions is as natural as difference of hair colours. But if you find yourself constantly lampooning new content or belly aching about something or other perhaps it's time you sit a couple threads out.

Respecting everyone's rights to their opinions is a two-way street. If you want to bitch and complain in every world building or lore relating topic, you have to be prepared to be called a whiner in return (obviously in polite terms, cussing someone out is never acceptable.)

Just my 2 Isk

Edit: Various SmartphOwned Shenanigans
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Jennifer Starfall on 01 May 2015, 15:00
I'll be somewhat blunt. The abject negativity, pessimism, and conspiracy theorism towards Eve that is beginning to get to me. I play Eve because I enjoy it, and I'm mature enough to know that not everything CCP does will be something I want. I'm faced with two options. I can either argue with people who are entrenched in an Eve that was, some of whom don't even play anymore. Or I can leave. This is a hobbie, something I do for fun. You are not my clients, I'm not forced to put up with you.

When I say "fuck it, I'm done" and leave, my bio will point somewhere else (I found out about Backstage because other people's bios pointed here).

People don't like getting pissed on for liking something and feeling enthusiastic about it. Frankly, I'm tired of smelling like piss.

You may want to think about whether you want Backstage to be a community or an echo chamber.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Morwen Lagann on 01 May 2015, 15:58
There is a reason I posted earlier today that Rule 11 applies to bittervetting and negative-nancying. This includes things like conspiracy theories directed at other players, accusations of favoritism, and the like, as well as prima-donna-ing about the spotlight being on people that aren't yourself. People will adjust their attitudes and posting tones when it comes to criticism or there will be some very, very unpleasant things happening to people.

As for what personally gets my goat with this subject, it's the continued laziness of quite a few people regarding the atmosphere. This -like any other forum or channel - is a community, and as members of a community you too have responsibilities that you are expected to uphold. That happens to include reporting posts or behaviors that you feel are against or otherwise detrimental to the spirit and/or letter of the rules and policies of this forum.

When I look at the reports forum - again, as a reminder, every time a report for a post is generated, a new thread is created there for that post - here's some stats for the last month:
So. There's a whole lot of crying of "there's a problem" and not a lot of corresponding laser pointers indicating specific examples in our reports area, which is how we track this sort of thing. We (the mods) do not have the time or energy to read every single post you guys make. That is what the report system is for. It's supposed to draw attention to potential issues so that we can deal with it. If there is a widespread problem - and there is, it seems - you need to do your part and report things so we can more quickly act on them.

Unfortunately, a lot of people take it personally when their reports don't get acted on within minutes/hours of it being made. And god forbid the mods decide after looking at it, that it isn't actually something that we need to/can moderate because it doesn't actually break the rules? Hell, often enough we get reports about things that don't even come CLOSE to breaking the rules. So only a handful of people continue to do it.

However, this problem is not unique to Backstage, or roleplayers, or any other 'group' that we collectively fall under. This will happen no matter where people go, no matter what medium they use. It happened to Chatsubo. It's happening on EVE-O, and it's happening ingame.

You want this place - or any other - to have a better atmosphere? Get off your collective asses and do your part as a member of the community. Do yourselves a favor before you start forcing history to repeat itself, and start being part of the solution instead of passively being part of the problem. Start reporting posts that you view as problematic instead of just bitching loudly ingame or on the forum.

It bothers me, quite a bit, that we have to keep telling people to do this, year after year. It's not fucking rocket science, people.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Lyn Farel on 02 May 2015, 02:48
Well I am not sure how you took my answer but I have to admit that it may have been a bit cryptic... To say the least. I am sorry if it was taken out of form.

That was basically just my reaction after reading the last answer, and I really didn't know what to add. I really agree on the purpose of the report system, and everything about insinuations, ascribing things to players, etc. Well, i'm pretty sure to be part of the tiny minority using that report function, which I use regularly. Please note that I do not disagree with anything about the rules and what is expected as polite culture. I have always been behind 100%...

But we are not going to better the atmosphere by telling to people that they are "prima donna ing", that people do nothing, or other insinuations, being a mod or not. Talk about ascribing nefarious motives to people... Especially when referring to the last issue with Slack. We have to take into account that not everyone has full free time on eve and cannot play content creator, spend their time on social networks, or sometimes even just play the game. Some people that have those time constraints, or just that are not involved as much as people that literally gave their life to the game, get constantly to deal with accusation of being lazy, not moving their asses, and derogatory remarks like that... Rule 11... It goes both ways!

Really, my intention with that post was first to answer to that post in the Summit section, and decided not to derail it further and moved it there. So, it was to try to present both sides of the argument so that we reach a better understanding.

I'm just really disappointed by the answers, that are not really in the spirit I was... expecting.

I mean, please do not take it as an offense or anything. I think your answers are full of good points! The first one says "if you don't like it, don't criticize". Well then, we are certainly not going to improve things by shutting up, no ? I understand that there is good criticism, and there is just utter toxicity (maybe there are different thresholds depending on the people ?)... The second one is basically an ultimatum and comparing backstage to an echo chamber... Well actually, dampening criticism and feedback sure is not going to improve it either, no ? Are we just here to give each other accolades and congratulate ? That is an important part, of course. And I think people are unfair to forget that we still do that. Especially in the last thread on the drifter autopsy, there was actually a good acclaim from everyone... That probably got drown into the drama that ensued (our of nowhere if you want my opinion on that...).

Really, it was not my intention to turn that post in yet another settling of accounts between people... I think there is a chasm between two sides, people heavily involved in content creation, and people that are not. Or, maybe, between people that fully support what we get and the current storyline, and people that think some things are not.. good ? Or disagree with ? The first ones accuse the latter to break their fun, and the latter accuse the first one to try to shut them down.

I think it's understandable, but a bit silly as a situation...
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Lyn Farel on 02 May 2015, 04:21
Also, if I may on a sidenote, rule 11 might become a problem considering how vague and twisted it can turn in my opinion. It can be used and justified for pretty much every excess I can imagine.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Jennifer Starfall on 02 May 2015, 07:50
Lyn, there is a difference between criticism and pissing on people's enthusiasm. I have felt, personally, the latter on more than one occasion. I have seen it happen to other people.

People are excited about the Drifters. It's generating discussion and conjecture. That's good. To have people step in and proclaim that they're just another failure by CCP and will become just more farmable content is stifling and off putting. To watch people's work and initiative getting recognition resulting in accusations of favoritism and being used as an excuse to dredge up the darker moments of the game we love is off-putting and makes me want to go elsewhere.

Complaining about what CCP has done in the past is pointless; it's done and gone. Griping here about what CCP is doing now isn't going to do much; I don't believe they're involved here. You're probably better off going to the channels where they are, but be prepared for the large number of people who will likely disagree with you.

Once again, there's an important difference between "Drifters are just more pointless farmable content" and "I'm worried that Drifters will fade into another form of farmable content." One of them invites discussion.

And regarding Rule 11, rules like that have to be malleable in order to prevent rules lawyering. Very explicit, concretely defined rules are much easier to argue loopholes in. The wording makes the mods' job (which shouldn't be a job) easier to enforce. It just depends on a trust in the mods. Which is kinda fundamental in participating in a moderated community. Which, to make abundantly clear, I have, and is part of the reason I haven't left yet.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Gwen Ikiryo on 02 May 2015, 09:01
...being used as an excuse to dredge up the darker moments of the game we love is off-putting and makes me want to go elsewhere.

Complaining about what CCP has done in the past is pointless; it's done and gone. Griping here about what CCP is doing now isn't going to do much; I don't believe they're involved here. You're probably better off going to the channels where they are, but be prepared for the large number of people who will likely disagree with you

I agree with the rest of what you're saying re: negativity, but this seems like sorta an odd sentiment, if you don't mind me saying. CCP has proven time and time and time again that they're sorta prone to corruption. Isn't that a good reason to keep a bit of a cautious and critical mindset, so it can be nipped in the bud if it ever does happen again?

Reputation matters, I think. Giving people a clean slate every time is asking to get yourself hurt.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere
Post by: Anskek on 02 May 2015, 09:20
And there is still a difference between stating concerns versus proclaiming something a failure and pissing on ppls work
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere
Post by: Gwen Ikiryo on 02 May 2015, 09:23
And there is still a difference between stating concerns versus proclaiming something a failure and pissing on ppls work

Yeah, I know. That's not the part I meant.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Anskek on 02 May 2015, 09:26
To me it is to an extent. Given the way people use the past as a shield for their behavior. To me these two factors are not mutually exclusive given their use here.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Deitra Vess on 02 May 2015, 09:42
Really I don't get where any of the negativity comes from. Don't like what other people devoted their time to? Look the other way and shut up about it. The sheer amount of content created in this community is what drove me to making my char and (somewhat) tried to enter it. 85% of it doesn't appeal to me, but I at least respect the work put forth. A lot of it is really incredible if you don't look at it with rose colored glasses. If its a "been there, done that" bitter vet kinda thing, I'll ask what drew you to rping? I would imagine for a lot of you things like that. Why stop the growth of the rp community because its all been done before? Most unique ideas come from tweaking existing things.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Vizage on 02 May 2015, 10:14
Jenn has it in this discussion I have to say. You seem to be conflating constructive criticism with raining on other peoples parades Lyn. They aren't the same thing and shouldn't be treated with equal respect.

But we are not going to better the atmosphere by telling to people that they are "prima donna ing", that people do nothing, or other insinuations, being a mod or not. Talk about ascribing nefarious motives to people...

After reading through the Conference topic, that's exactly what needs to be done. Anslo provided you with a response on the topic, specifically telling you that Slack is how he communicated with CCP to get their hard work pushed forward. Then in either an act of extreme negligence/laziness or just simple "Bittervett'ing" you decided to heavily imply a level of Favoritism using the rather choice word of "buddying." If I had have seen this post before the whole thing got C...Katacombed you had better believe a flamebait report would have been dropped. To Anslo credit he took the little snipe and still gave you your answer, but you decided to pester further implying you didn't have time for slack and needed another answer. Now either that was a really stupid question (He explained how he did it, why would he know other ways of doing it?) or you were just looking to press the issue. This kinda stuff has to stop.

We turn a great thing sour for no perticular reason other to try and level our importance with people who put serious work into the lore for CCP. You wanna talk about dissapointment? The fact that that thread needed to be closed because of a few sour grapes is the disappointment.

I'm just really disappointed by the answers, that are not really in the spirit I was... expecting.

If you don't want an echo chamber (which you seem to be implying.) Don't scold people like petulant children with lines like this when you don't get the answer you were expecting.

I mean, please do not take it as an offense or anything.

And then don't backpedal behind a boilerplate "No Offence" and not expect people to still be offended.

Seriously guys, this stuff has to stop somewhere.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Katrina Oniseki on 02 May 2015, 10:58
Quote from: Vizage
C...Katacombed


Weeeeeeeeeee!

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Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Lyn Farel on 02 May 2015, 13:32
Lyn, there is a difference between criticism and pissing on people's enthusiasm. I have felt, personally, the latter on more than one occasion. I have seen it happen to other people.

People are excited about the Drifters. It's generating discussion and conjecture. That's good. To have people step in and proclaim that they're just another failure by CCP and will become just more farmable content is stifling and off putting. To watch people's work and initiative getting recognition resulting in accusations of favoritism and being used as an excuse to dredge up the darker moments of the game we love is off-putting and makes me want to go elsewhere.

Complaining about what CCP has done in the past is pointless; it's done and gone. Griping here about what CCP is doing now isn't going to do much; I don't believe they're involved here. You're probably better off going to the channels where they are, but be prepared for the large number of people who will likely disagree with you.

Once again, there's an important difference between "Drifters are just more pointless farmable content" and "I'm worried that Drifters will fade into another form of farmable content." One of them invites discussion.

And regarding Rule 11, rules like that have to be malleable in order to prevent rules lawyering. Very explicit, concretely defined rules are much easier to argue loopholes in. The wording makes the mods' job (which shouldn't be a job) easier to enforce. It just depends on a trust in the mods. Which is kinda fundamental in participating in a moderated community. Which, to make abundantly clear, I have, and is part of the reason I haven't left yet.

Well... I am probably not always at the right place at the right time I suppose... I have not really heard, read or seen anyone complaining about favoritism, jealousy issues, etc... I mean, recently. Before that, probably, but I don't remember very well then... I don't think it really happened a lot on backstage ? Maybe there is a conflation between what is said on channels ingame and here ?

And well, for rules, I have always held the opposite mindset. I don't like common law, and I believe that rule lawyering actually happens when rules are not clear enough, like this one. Clear rules like the ones on verbal abuse, etc, are perfectly clear and I have yet to see them "lawyered"... I also never really... made any mysteries that my trust in the moderation here has been a little dented.... I mean, I support the mod! It's just that there is... history, and disagreement.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Lyn Farel on 02 May 2015, 13:56
Jenn has it in this discussion I have to say. You seem to be conflating constructive criticism with raining on other peoples parades Lyn. They aren't the same thing and shouldn't be treated with equal respect.

I don't know... As I have said in the OP, I really see that there has been parade raining. But I have also most of the time seen constructive criticism as well. Both actually sometimes go together, valid points and constructive criticism, and at the same time, well.. it's not always the best place to voice it and then it can turn a thread about a parade into drama...


After reading through the Conference topic, that's exactly what needs to be done. Anslo provided you with a response on the topic, specifically telling you that Slack is how he communicated with CCP to get their hard work pushed forward. Then in either an act of extreme negligence/laziness or just simple "Bittervett'ing" you decided to heavily imply a level of Favoritism using the rather choice word of "buddying." If I had have seen this post before the whole thing got C...Katacombed you had better believe a flamebait report would have been dropped. To Anslo credit he took the little snipe and still gave you your answer, but you decided to pester further implying you didn't have time for slack and needed another answer. Now either that was a really stupid question (He explained how he did it, why would he know other ways of doing it?) or you were just looking to press the issue. This kinda stuff has to stop.

We turn a great thing sour for no perticular reason other to try and level our importance with people who put serious work into the lore for CCP. You wanna talk about dissapointment? The fact that that thread needed to be closed because of a few sour grapes is the disappointment.

Wait what ?

Wait a minute... I'm sorry that you see it that way but that seriously sounds like something that never actually happened. I am not sure what made you think so, but re-reading it again and again, I just don't see it. You are, like Morwen I feel, trying to ascribe motives other than my own that I never actually had.

Firstly, I never knew about slack. As other have already stated, it is extremely easy to point to those social networks when you actually know about them. Just saying that I should know about them because people always talk about it.. well, sorry, I suppose I missed it everytime... And that I also do not spend my days on Eve too... Or that I may have read it and thought it was some kind of saying, phrasing (like give me some slack, that kind of thing ?). Or that maybe, as some have said, I was willfully ignorant and stupid. Talk about good atmosphere... I got that scud out of nowhere.

Secondly, I suppose that was not the best term to use ? I mean, what is it, speaking with devs on a social network, if not buddying them ? I mean, some people count devs as friends, especially since some of them were players before... And, also... Well, put yourself in our shoes. You suddenly discover that people are able to reach CCP. Well, that got me very interested actually since they basically closed the door when they split OOC/Summit, and left dev actors in the closet. So, it was rather exciting as an opportunity because something that people have been complaining about in the last years (meaning, the doors closed and the absence of lore news), was maybe to an end, or at least could be bypassed. That is why I asked how they did it. I thought naively at first that people would be glad to share it, but I actually had to press it until I got something else than evasive answers... I really thought you were all trying to hide it or something at some point. And I really did not know how to ask it again, because when it's like the 4-5th post you write to get answers instead of vague allusions... Well, it was very touchy indeed, and I started to feel that something was not right.... And well, apparently, people were expecting accusations of favoritism or whatever else, which now I can see might explain why all the elusiveness...? honestly, re-read what I posted everytime, trying to find the right words and trying everytime to actually explain what I meant, because every time it was taken in the worst way possible... So maybe I'm a retard again, maybe i'm stupid because I do not know slack or whatever... Then so be it. I just think the people that answered me probably performed as poorly as I did then. But seriously, read all the answers, and tell me how many of the 10-15 of them actually answer to the question ? It was just a question to know how to reach out to CCP !

Thirdly, I am rather unsure where I said that I didn't have time for slack and NEEDED another answer... ? Edit : I think I said that I don't want to go to twitter. Well, that's my choice, and will probably not use slack as well since it requires tweeter, right ? Too bad for me, but at least I got my answer and now know a bit more about how to reach devs!

If you don't want an echo chamber (which you seem to be implying.) Don't scold people like petulant children with lines like this when you don't get the answer you were expecting.


And then don't backpedal behind a boilerplate "No Offence" and not expect people to still be offended.

Seriously guys, this stuff has to stop somewhere.

Again, what... ? It is starting to get on the verge of vitriolic and aggressive tone... seriously. That's precisely what I wanted to avoid with that thread.

Well, if you are offended by what I said here, then I am sorry, although, I don't really understand...

You are just being rude for the sake of it. I don't want to go further that road. I'm done with it.

Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Vizage on 02 May 2015, 15:10
-----Excerpt from the Thread in Question since I can't quote it directly----

Lyn Farel: Ah ok. So we have to buddy them through social networks.  8)

Anslo's Reply: No. Anyone in this thing can enter and talk to CCP and give feedback. It's a community thing. Let's not spin it like only a select few get access and that CCP is biased. Get on slack, submit an idea. If it's solid, then yay.

Lyn's Reply: No, what I mean, is how do I submit the idea without having to buddying them on social networks, or just go through social networks ? Just out of curiosity, not that I have anything to submit right now...

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Exactly how is that suppose to be taken Lyn? Anslo replied with the exact answer to your question and you continued to pester him. Moreover he even asked you not to so heavily imply spin with the wordage you chose, and you IMMEDIATELY used it again.


You are just being rude for the sake of it.


I'm being rude? Seriously..? Lyn if you can't take criticism for you poor choice of words, then perhaps you should start examining the content of what you write more carefully. Telling all of us you're "Dissapointed" in our response has a deeply patronizing ring to it, its offensive, and if you really didn't want an echo chamber, dissent would be welcomed not dissapointing.

Quite honestly I'm getting exhausted by your constant backpedaling. Feigning either ignorance or accident when people question things you've said, but so quickly you dedicate entire threads to things other people have said. This whole apologizing after-the-fact thing you do needs to stop. Think more carefully about your choice of words before posting something, instead of begging forgiveness after it turns into an issue.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Lyn Farel on 02 May 2015, 15:59
Well yes, I wanted to know how can I do without slack ? I don't understand how is that an issue ? I mean, ok, apparently there is no other way that I know of... Thus the question ? To the wrong person probably ? He probably doesn't know either ? How could I know back then ? I just discovered about slack ! Gwen explained perfectly, better than I, what the issue could be, in the same thread. Was that offensive or accusing of favoritism too ?

I was glad he answered eventually. But he took it completely wrong. I understood why and rephrased. So, yes, how exactly is that supposed to be taken Viz ? 

I feel we may not be speaking the same language here...

As for rude... Well let's see. The way you talk back at me is rude. The things you assume or ascribe to me, are rude. The way I was answered was rude. There, you have it. There is no sour grapes, no jealousy or envy, no snipe, no ill feelings, no backpedaling, no accusation of anything on the four people that created that awesome piece of content. But just a real will to see what is possible to do with CCP/player interaction again and the same willingness to have RP content.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Lyn Farel on 02 May 2015, 16:12
That's fucked up and completely silly.

It is going nowhere anyway. If I can admit my wrongs, why nobody else can, and work upon that to better things up ? Because right now, I haven't seen ANYONE admitting any wrong at all. And without it, issues will not go forward, that's for sure.

I can either throw tantrums at people and being yelled back at, or apologize like I did and try to speak in the nicest, most understanding way possible and being called backpedaler and hiding behind excuses. Either way, I think I see now that it was doomed to fail from the beginning, because people don't want actually to see it resolved.

I'm not even taking sides in that mess. Next time I will just shut up and stop posting altogether, eat crows, take hits, and say nothing.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Katrina Oniseki on 02 May 2015, 16:48
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Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Vizage on 02 May 2015, 16:50
Oh stop playing the Martyr Lyn, you didn't rephrase anything. In fact, as I pointed out, you used THE EXACT SAME WORD that started the issue a second time. There's nothing wrong with apologizing when you are in the wrong for things. But doing it habitually, so much so, that it becomes questionable if you just don't use the apologies to shield yourself post-criticism.

If you think me pointing out what I think the issue people have with your comments is, is rude, but claiming to be "Disappointing" in us all when we point them out isn't then quite frankly you need to carefully examine your definition of rude, because you clearly aren't working with the same operative term as the rest of us.

Don't for a second act like the victim here, like I'm lambasting you after you've admitted your wrongs. All you've done is carefully evade addressing the critical issue of your wordage, and completely ignored the patronizing comments you chose the level against us in this very thread.

None of it is acceptable and I won't for a second treat like you a victim after behaving in such a way.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Arkon Sarain on 02 May 2015, 20:37
I am going to regret weighing in on this (again) but I am stupid like this so here goes.

Could it be that part of what caused the thread to spiral out of control into something less than savoury was Lyn's choice of the word "buddy?" I am sure that they meant it purely in the innocuous sense of 'friending someone on Facebook' or 'following someone on Twitter,' and unfortunately people read into that word to mean something else?

I don't know just my two cents, as it seems looking over the thread and here, that things spiraled after that. And rather than believe that everyone was out to rain on each other's parades, I think it is more credible that the English language's rather over abundance of definitions and uses for words has resulted in this unfortunate circumstance.

Again as I have said previously, nothing I say is intended to diminish or invalidate the feelings of someone else, and should they do so or should they in other way cause offence please do let me know; so that I can offer my most sincere apologies, and remove the offending parts.

-A
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Pieter Tuulinen on 02 May 2015, 23:04
Any time that CCP get players involved in the lore there are accusations of shenanigans. I can't believe that it was an accidental misunderstanding this time.
Title: Re: Backstage atmosphere.
Post by: Silver Night on 02 May 2015, 23:39
[admin]I'm locking this for the moment, while some discussion between mods is had. Your patience is appreciated, it may or may not be unlocked later.[/admin]